A practical way to settle wedding vendor meals using the quotes and dates you already have, rather than a figure copied from somewhere else.
The short answer
Work wedding vendor meals out from your own numbers. Write down what you have been quoted, mark anything you have not been quoted as unknown, and use the calculator on this page instead of an average you cannot check.
The checklist
The checklist
- Ask for the quote in writing, itemised, at one guest count.
- Mark every line without a price as unknown rather than zero.
- Ask which lines each percentage fee is calculated on.
- Write down the date the quote expires.
- Note what changes if the guest count drops by ten.
- Re-run the calculator once the missing numbers arrive.
How to use it
Work through it in the meeting. Anything you leave unticked is a question that will come back later, usually with a price attached.
Decide these before you send it
- What have you actually been quoted in writing, and what is still an estimate?
- Which costs move with the guest count and which stay the same?
- Which line items are included, which are excluded, and which are still unknown?
- What date does someone else need an answer by?
- What changes if the number you are planning around turns out to be wrong?
What each answer changes
| What to compare | What to ask for | The decision it changes |
|---|---|---|
| Written quote | An itemised quote for the same guest count and the same date | Whether two options can be compared at all |
| Inclusions | What the price already covers, in the contract wording | Which extra quotes you still have to collect |
| Unknowns | Every line without a confirmed amount | How much of the total is still a guess |
| Deadlines | The date the other side needs a decision or a final count | How long you can keep comparing |
A worked example you can copy
Placing the day around one locked ceremony time
- 9:00 AM – 12:30 PM Hair and makeup (locked)
- 1:00 PM – 2:00 PM Getting ready photos
- 2:00 PM – 3:00 PM First look and portraits
- 2:30 PM – 2:55 PM Ceremony (locked)
- 2:55 PM – 3:55 PM Cocktail hour
- 3:55 PM – 5:55 PM Dinner and speeches
- 5:55 PM – 7:55 PM Dancing
- 7:55 PM – 8:10 PM Exit
- 1 conflict(s) to resolve: Ceremony is locked to start 45 minute(s) before First look and portraits has finished.
| Line | Amount |
|---|---|
| Minutes inside a named activity | 670 min |
| Minutes from first start to last end | 670 min |
Where this usually goes wrong
None of these are exotic. They are the ordinary ways this decision goes wrong, and each one is caught by asking a single extra question.
Watch for
- Treating an unknown fee as if it were zero, which makes the cheaper-looking option win on paper.
- Comparing two quotes at different guest counts.
- Planning around a figure from an article instead of the quote in your inbox.
Questions couples ask
Do I need every number before I can start?
No. Start with what you have, mark the rest unknown, and the calculator will show you how much of the total is still open.
Why is there no national average on this page?
Because an average cannot be sourced to your city, your date or your guest count. A number you build from your own quotes is the one you can act on.
Your next decision
Once this is settled, the pages below are the next decisions in the same cluster.
